Earth Core by Derringdos at Flickr
Join me as we discuss:
The Primary Core philosophies of FPN and how they are connected.
Correction, Teaching, Parent/Child Relationship, Other Relationships, Way of Seeing.
How most issue DO NOT LIE with correction like most want to believe.
SHOW NOTES
Episode 161: When Nothing Has Worked for my Kid – show Jeff and I did taking these philosophies deeper.
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So as I started to put together the show tonight for Monday, I started feeling very, very poorly so I’ve made the decision to get to bed early tonight so I’m not feeling like Super-Crap tomorrow so I’m going to throw up the number 1 most downloaded show as of 7/21/13 (and is still being downloaded organically even until today).
Frankly, this is one of my personal favorites and addresses how parents tend to parent much like bullies…and even as slave drivers….oh yeah. I’m not kidding.
http://thefamilypodcastnetwork.com/parentingslaves
In this episode we discuss beliefs on how everyone (even kiddos) are created equal and are able to choose to be led, rather than decided for and commanded by parents.
We will also cover some kiddo sound bites on how they feel about slavery. One of my best and personal favorites as well as an audience top-downloader.
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Ethan, Jeffs Son, Hurrying
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How so many families are in such a hurry…to the detriment of their kiddos.
How kids have a speed that they need to be going to learn and we often are pushing them so fast they cannot.
Confessionals of Jeff and Trey on rushing and how we are changing that.
SHOW NOTES
The Day I Stopped Saying “Hurry Up” – another great article from one of Jeff and my favorite bloggers at http://www.handsfreemama.com.
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Renee Mercer from www.bedwettingstore.com
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An interview with Renee Mercer and her career in working with families dealing with bedwetting and enuresis.
When should parents (what age) begin setting up a bedwetting treatment?
What is the best way to treat bedwetting?
What do you do if your kids going off to summer camp but still has occasional accidents.
SHOW NOTES
The Bedwetting Store – Renee’s wonderful and very comprehensive store for families growing kiddos working through bedwetting at http://bedwettingstore.com
Seven Steps to Nighttime Dryness: A Practical Guide for Parents of Children with Bedwetting – Renee’s book on bedwetting.
Seven Steps to Nighttime Dryness – KINDLE EDITION
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Today marks Part 3 of our Hearts at War Series that helps us determine why our parenting techniques just aren’t working with our kids.
How most parents in their fights with their kids are in conflict, but collusion…you heard me right…
How we get “in the box” in our thinking about our kid which can actually prevent solutions from occurring.
SHOW NOTES
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Join Jeff and I as we discuss:
The frustration of repeating ourselves to our kids.
How to stop this cycle without ever needing to yell or repeat yourself.
How we are often the ones that are teaching our kids that it is okay to ignore what we say until we erupt.
SHOW NOTES
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The two different perspectives we have to operate in with kids: seeing them as people, or objects and how even good parents seem to want to see kids as objects.
How we often see kids as inferior and not even be aware we are doing it.
How kids respond way more to how we view them, rather than what we say or do with/to them.
That’s right, as I was building the text part of this post I changed the title. Executive decision. 😀
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Love War by Carismaticman on Deviant Art
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How many parents want change in their kid, but miss this one crucial step to make it happen.
How most parents hearts, even when they love their kiddos, are at war with them simultaneously.
The places I have caught my (Trey’s) very own heart at war with people, even my kids.
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Talking About Death
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The often scary topic of talking to our kids about death.
The expanded story of one of our favorite chickens dying while on vacation.
How to talk to kids about death from pets, favorite uncles, to our own deaths.
SHOW NOTES
Sorry for the late showtime air folks. We had some website problems yesterday (you will hear some of it in the actual show). But I Skype’d my web developer and had them on it. It took them most of the day but my team was fantastic about getting the code-problems all squared away and we are back up and running.
Enjoy the show today on talking to our kids about death, and how we can use things like pets dying to prepare them on the microscopic level.
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Silkies by AlishaV at Flickr
So I returned from our vacation feeling good, but I noticed a scratch in the back of my throat, and my glands were swollen. *sigh Well, after spending the weekend getting the house back in order, getting our clothes washed and replaced, and dealing with some hard stuff (one of our chickens dies…more on this in a bit) I started noticing a cough and a more prominent sore throat.
So that brings me to today. My voice is not doing well and last night I was not in a position to record but didn’t feel comfortable not kicking something out today and I wanted to blog about a couple of situations that occurred since we got back. Things I think you will be interested in.
First, when we arrived back home we could not find one of our Silky chickens. We looked all over, in their cage, in their coupe, all over our large yard. Now, it’s important to mention that our birds (we have chickens and ducks) are more like family to us. They are producers in that they lay eggs for us, but we see them as a part of the Gibson system and not just an asset.
Well, one of our chickens EB (short for Ebony…can you guess what color she was?) was dead. She had gotten stuck underneath a water dish that somehow flipped over on her. It was very tragic for us since we value our birds. But it was a beautiful opportunity to allow our kiddos to practice grieving. We used all of the techniques we discuss here at FPN (click here to listen to Episode 23 of Talking to Your Kids About Death) and it worked perfectly.
I dug the hole and the kids were allowed to grieve however they wanted. Anna wanted to find a solution to what happened while talking about being sad. Grant wanted to say some nice words about him having “loved that chicken.” Momma (Corrie) cried and said EB was her personal favorite. But it was good practice on the micro-scale.
The second noteworthy thing occurred during our play yesterday. While we were playing a very diverse and moderately complicated game (that’s my daughter Anna for you) we were able to discuss a barter economy today. Anna’s game involved Grant as a shark in the ocean, Cora a sea turtle in the ocean, Anna a coyote in the desert, and me a desert frog. Anna and I teamed up to catch lizards to eat. Grant, the shark, was able to amass a ton of fish, and Cora had extra sea turtle eggs. Grant wanted some of our lizard but we had too much fish.
But guess what we needed? Sea turtle eggs. So we discussed a barter economy where Grant could trade his fish for eggs, and then the eggs for our lizards. The kids (ages 3, 5, and 7) picked up on this flawlessly. It was really neat to watch, after some education, as the barter economy picked up and flourished.
Moral of the stories today? Every single instances mentioned today can be used to teach a lesson. One about how to express emotion during loss. The other an economical model through something as simple as play. And it was effective. Get involved with your kiddo and teach em’ tha good stuffz and don’t forget: it’s all about the relationship with your kids.
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