Episode 161: Jeff Emery – When Nothing Has Worked with My Kid

Parenting Pyramid by Arbinger InstituteJoin me as we discuss:

The answer to  that infamous question: “what do I do when nothing has worked.”

What if grounding, taking stuff away, and whoopin’ em just isn’t cutting it?

Trey, my kid doesn’t like me so my teaching isn’t working.  What now?

How do you make this work if I’m separated from my ex-spouse?  

 

So many parents are frustrated because they have gone from expert to expert with no  major results with their kids.  Is all hope lost? Is there nothing we can do?  Absolutely false and there is hope!

Today my great friend Jeff Emery is on for his second time to discuss the Parenting Pyramid and how to find, on that spectrum, where our issue occurs.  I know sometimes I am afraid to admit that maybe it’s me that generating the issues I’m bumping in to, but there is an inherent freedom to that.  

But, instead, I hammer on correcting my kiddo.  Taking away privileges  grounding them, or worse yet: yelling.  *gasp  But what do we do when we’ve tried all the things we’ve been taught, heard about, or even seen on TV with no results?  

Jeff walks us through the Parenting Pyramid and potentially unlocks why you’ve been having such a hard time with your kid:

  • Correction
  • Teaching
  • Parent/Child Relationship
  • Executive Parenting
  • Way of Seeing

 

SHOW NOTES

Click Here to see a large version of the Parenting Pyramid by The Arbinger Institute.

Jeff’s Website – great site Jeff has put together with a blog!

Leadership and Self Deception – one of my personal favorite books by The Arbinger Institute. 

The Anatomy of Peace – another personal favorite of mine by Arbinger.  

 

 

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Episode 160: 10 Things You Should NEVER Do As a Parent

Top 10 Things to Neer DoJoin me as we discuss:

Top 10 things you should never to as a parent.

SHOW NOTES

Let’s be honest, we all have our things that we do really well in parenting, and those things that we totally derp up.  I get that.   I have them too.  But are there a set of things that we should spend more time on not doing.  I say yes.  

Today we discuss those things, why they are not good ideas, and how to counter them.  I admit that I have to swallow my pride and admit to my own screw ups in these matters.  

  • Give In
  • Not walk the talk.
  • Lack of Discipline
  • Take your kids side….always.
  • Be absent.
  • Keep kids from experiencing failure.
  • Say “because I said so.”
  • Yell at kiddos outside of life-threatening situations.
  • Deny choices or give too many choices.
  • Give kids all the crappy jobs.

 

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Episode 14 The Real Family Guys Podcast: Dealing with Teen Attitudes

Teen AttitudeJoin Paul and I as we discuss:

So what does a parent do with a kid that is copping an attitude?

What causes the attitude from my kid that used to be so sweet?

How lowering and eliminating attitude is possible, but not with current strategies.  

 

SHOW NOTES

The Affluent Student – Paul’s awesome site.  You’ve got to check out his articles on his 25 lbs weight loss.

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Episode 159: Meeting Beneath the Old Georgia Pine-A Lesson in Negotiation

Georgia Pine NegotiationJoin me as we discuss:

Should a parent negotiate with their children and if you do will it make them little snots?

Where do hard-headed little kiddos come from?

Best 7 tips on negotiation I recommend.  

What is your fate if you do not learn to negotiate with your kid…you won’t like it. 

I want to apologize in advance for my singing.  My voice is still bronchitis-ey.  So lets blame it on that.  

 

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Episode 158 Criticizing Your Parenting: Not Just Ya Mama Anymore

Criticizing parents. Photo compliments of dougvdotcom at Flickr.Join me as we discuss:

How to handle those parents that solicit that advice we just don’t want…and often don’t need!

I’ll give you three options on how to approach it, and no, I don’t suggest you punch them in the face!

Is it possible to do this, without burning the relationship with the person: YES!  

If it’s someone from Walmart making the suggestion: go ahead and slip their kid a 5-Hour Energy.  *snicker

 

 

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Episode 157: FPN Classic on I’m the Parent You’re the Kid Mentalities

Positional vs Persuasive Power

Photo compliments of sponng at Flickr.

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An FPN Classic remake…thanks to my shot voice.

Probably one of my newer personal favorites on “I’m the parent your the kid so do what I say” type parenting.

How a different type of parenting, called persuasive parenting, is more effective.  

 

 

 

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Episode 156 Dealing with Other Parents and Other Kids at School

dealing with kids at school

Photo compliments of zzclef at Flickr.

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Listener question: “Do you suggest going through the school if your kid has an issue with another child?”

Also: “Do you deal directly with the parent?”

We cover these two questions in depth to prepare your kid, and you, for those kids.

 

 

 

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Family Podcast Network Blooper Reel

httpv://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-0G0kyHvLUA

 

We’ve had such a great response to this on my social media sites that I had to post it here.  After the making of the About FPN page I had a lot of surplus clips where I derped up.  Here is a fun compilation of one of the worst recording nights I had.

 

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Episode 155 The Real Family Guys Podcast: Videogames and Violence

Videogames and Violence

Photo compliments of dr.chesed at Flickr.

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Videogames and violence.

Is the connection really there? Or is it all made up by parents that don’t get it?  

Paul and I discuss how we do it in our family.

We also bring in what research has shown on the connection between videogames and increased/decreased violence. 

 

SHOW NOTES

The Affluent Student – Pauls awesome site.

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