How do we unlearn what our parents taught us?
Is it possible to change a habit in us that was ingrained in us by our parents?
How the "I'll never do that" comes back to bite us in the butt.
Today we discuss the question of "can we overcome our parents methods. As humans we have the natural tendency to default back to what we know.
So if we see our parents do something (particuarly difficult when we see it over and over) that is a bad habit, human nature will often default during times of stress back to what we've seen. Partly, it's just kinda natural. Instictual if you will.
This often leads to a myriad of things like guilt, persistant bad habits, and repetitive discipline like spanking a lot or a kid stacking up their groundings for approximately 25 years. Funny enough, these two issues actually feed off of each other.
So what do we do to unlearn what our parents taught:
- Figure out what's not working.
- Decide what to do differently.
- Decide what our parents taught us that we might keep.
- Be consistent....ooooh. Now you don't like me....
- Let your parents off the hook if harboring unforgiveness.
- Don't fall into guilt.
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