How kids long for our attention, and to make us proud.
How, even with this desire, parents waste it by not showing them how to make them proud.
How we tend to focus on the negative and produce MORE negative from our kids.
Today Jeff and I cover one of our favorite topics. Positive parenting. Some of you went "eh, I'm interested." Others went "ahh, not this mushy always tell them they are right crap." But it's not that.
[tweetable]Kids have the fundamental need to gain attention from us and the goal must be to show them what we want from them.[/tweetable]
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So it is very important to make sure that we are giving them attention for the good things we can "catch" them doing. In fact, we need to be noticing them doing it right much more than when they are doing it wrong.
I mean, think about it. You ever had that boss that only came to your office or called you when you did something wrong. No acknowledgment when you did well etc. How bad does that suck. BIG TIME! And it's not different for our kiddos.
So if we want our kids to make us proud, we have to tell them "I'm proud of you."