Join me as we discuss:
The idea of controlling our kids.
How Corrie and I don't control our kids at all...and they are some of the kindest, most courteous kids you'll meet.
One of the biggest mistakes parents make.
We've heard some derivative of the statement "you need to control your kids better." Whether in Walmart, at DayCare, or other kid enriched environments we have heard it said about someone, thought it about a parent, or had it told to us.
A while back a lady was complimenting us on how obedient our kids were. I politely told he that my kids are indeed, not obedient. She looked like a dog hearing a funny sound. I explained to her that my kids don't obey.
What they were seeing was kids that are kind, courteous, soft-hearted, and considerate and that frequently gets confused with obedience.
You see, the difference is that my kids have chosen to say things like "please" and "thank you", not because we threaten them with a "good whoopin'" if they do not.
You see, good parenting is not hinged on how well we can control our kids, but on how well we can control ourselves and then teach our kids how to control themselves.